You’ve got to learn to understand and identify "EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE" men.
“If a man doesn't know what he wants, he generally doesn't want what he's got."
Sorry to be harsh but it’s true. A man who is the right person and wants to be with you will find his own way to his "Emotional Truth". But if the truth is that he wants to be with you, or not be with you, you have to respect that. But I see women do it all the time. The guy will be sending signs that he's not "available" or interested in something "serious", but the woman ignores them and just pays attention to the fact that he likes being with her when they're together (which means only when they are together, get it?) In other words, she substitutes the physical connection, or even the occasional emotional connection, for the real relationship SHE wants to be in. SO WRONG!
Men have a different "love equation" from women: A strong connection does NOT necessarily equal any interest in a relationship. That's why it's CRITICAL that women learn to read the signals that a man sends about where he's at. When a guy isn't interested in a relationship, and he's seeing other women, here's what most women start doing that makes things go from bad to worse... They start trying to "fix" the guy. And then comes the "convincing" behavior and that because they have such a great connection, a loving "relationship" is the only right way to go.
Women can't understand: Why would a man have a great woman and a great connection with her that felt amazing when they were together, and not want a relationship?
Don’t become a "man-repellent": You can't convince a man to want to be with you. I don't mean that he can't share feelings or some level of intimacy with you.... In fact, I'm sure he still likes to connect with you when things are easy-going and he's not feeling "pressure" around you. But HIM sharing his feelings with you can confuse you into thinking that he is ready for a long term relationship.
AGAIN let me say this: “ Here's what he's saying: Yes, I have "feelings" for you. And no... that doesn't mean I want to be in arelationship with you."
If you're honest about it with yourself, and you put more value on his actions than his words you’ll wisely stop wasting your time, thoughts and feelings....and finally understand that you are both going in different life directions....
If there's just ONE PIECE OF ADVICE that holds more power for women than any other when it comes to men, it's this concept of only dating emotionally available men.
Source:C. Carter e-book